tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6552579109190549358.post7117867971060131067..comments2023-05-07T11:07:39.719-07:00Comments on Smart Love: Relationship Forms and StylesMichael Whitehousehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11965091654398554021noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6552579109190549358.post-29798863022907515392010-08-09T15:40:00.499-07:002010-08-09T15:40:00.499-07:00In the interest of brevity, I will only address on...In the interest of brevity, I will only address one point you made in this comment.<br /><br />I am sorry that polyamory offends you by its nature of a <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Classical_compound" rel="nofollow">classical compound</a>. I imagine that you are also offended by such words as gigabyte, geography, thermometer, television, dinosaur, and rhododendron.Michael Whitehousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11965091654398554021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6552579109190549358.post-1512911858044525642010-08-09T14:34:22.381-07:002010-08-09T14:34:22.381-07:00your venn diagrams are terrible.
i'm not tryi...your venn diagrams are terrible.<br /><br />i'm not trying to be a jerk, but the whole point of them is to cover ground, and overlap when there is overlap. how can you overlap monogamous relationship with polyfidelity? or polyfidelity (accent on the fidelity) overlapping with open relationships? a little more separation would be good, to keep your terms specific.<br /><br />also... i think you are being rather judgmental about a few things, most notably against monogamous people. by putting "casual dating" as a part of the mono circle, you're implying that "mono" is a type of person, not a lifestyle choice, wheras polyfidelity and open relationships are being defined as practices and not kinds of people. it's a choice, like the other two. <br /><br />i would also like to know... how does casual dating lumps in with "mono" if it can be dating many people? what a lot of valley people call poly is actually just self-important casual relationships or casual dating/sex, not the above-mentioned "many loves" (which, for the record, annoys me as a word given that it uses a greek and latin word-parts, making erudite outside observers take it less seriously).<br /><br />i would do two circles, a casual one and a committed one. within that, you could do a scale of less-to-more open as an x-axis. polygamous relationships can be far more closed and conservative than mono ones, and often when people talk about poly they are just self-justifying either casual dating or swinging (though moreso in the valley than anywhere else i've lived), so there needs to be some specific language to separate them, or an internal scale.<br /><br />as a final comment, usually open relationships are either open or closed, not both. many of them are closed, and automatically assuming that they would be open is a mistake many people make, but it's called cheating, particularly by the other person. perhaps it should be where the two interact?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6552579109190549358.post-87924753864720176822010-08-06T10:33:14.308-07:002010-08-06T10:33:14.308-07:00You are entirely correct, and I have corrected the...You are entirely correct, and I have corrected the text. I will correct the Venn diagram, but that takes more effort so I will get on it later.Michael Whitehousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11965091654398554021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6552579109190549358.post-91127218463054968332010-08-06T05:16:33.309-07:002010-08-06T05:16:33.309-07:00One quick note on terminology, from someone into a...One quick note on terminology, from someone into anthropology:<br />Polygamy is any marriage practice involving a person having more than one married partner at the same time.<br />Polygyny is the form of marriage in which one husband has multiple wives.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com