Saturday, August 14, 2010

What Does That Vibrator Have That I Don't?

Note: This article describes sexual acts in general terms. Reader discretion is advised.

As you know, I love to write articles by request. It is a way that I can be sure that at least one person will be interested in reading it, and it makes it easier to come up with topics. One request I received recently was to write about why people should not be threatened by their partner using sex toys and porn. Today's post shall speak to men about their female partners using sex toys, and tomorrow's will speak to women about their male partners partaking of pornography.


Joe says: I was dating this girl, and I find out that she is using these vibrators. What would she need those for if she's got the real thing? What does that vibe have that I don't?


Well, Joe, it can rotate 300 times a minute, ultrasonically stimulate her G-spot and stimulate her clitoris all at the same time. I suspect that your penis cannot do that.

Unfortunately, Joe's attitude is all too common. Men, exhibiting a combination of over-confidence and insecurity, will feel threatened to discover that their female partner is using or wants to use sex toys, be it with vibrators, creams, or even lubricants. As we discuss often on Smart Love, there are a great multitude of ways that one can find satisfaction, both in the bedroom and out. Here are some things for a man to consider before he grows jealous of a chunk of silicon with batteries.

Toys Are to Supplement, Not Replace You
If your relationship is otherwise a good one, then the use of toys is not because you are insufficient. If you are like most men, you probably masturbate, and, if you are like most men, then you probably do not think about your girlfriend or wife every time you satisfy your needs. This does not mean that you are not satisfied with her, just that you enjoy exploring other concepts in the comfort of your own mind. For her, it is the same way. She wants to get a variety of sensations.

You and the Toys Are Not Mutually Exclusive
But why does it have to be you or the toys? If you use your fingers or tongue to stimulate her, you likely do so because you want to provide her sensations that are not created with the penis. Sex toys are just another way that you can help to provide her sensations which cannot otherwise be produced. Instead of the sex toys being something that she uses when you are not around, why not use them in your experiences together. A pneumatic hammer is not in competition with a carpenter, but in the carpenter's hands it makes him better at what he does. Same idea here. I leave you to make your own terrible carpenter joke at this time.

Dominick says: Toys are absolutely a part of my repertoire. Many women that I play with do so because they know that I will use whatever is necessary to see to it that they are entirely satisfied by the experience. 

Toys Make Your Life Easier
The purpose of technology is to make life easier for us. Sex toys are no different. Why give yourself a case of carpel tunnel syndrome when you can use a g-spot stimulating toy to do the same thing, and maybe even do it better? In the bedroom, your job is to please her. You don't get extra points for being able to do it only with what God gave you. God gave you a brain and the ability to use tools, like an otter or a monkey. Use it.


If you are interested in learning how you can use toys and other products to discover interesting new places in your sex life, email me and I will put you in touch with someone who knows far more about the topic than I do.

2 comments:

  1. "God gave you a brain and the ability to use tools, like an otter or a monkey. Use it."*

    *Using a real otter or monkey is not okay.

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  2. very beautiful theme.It very useful information for every one. thanks

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